Hugs to you, my dear Georgina, from across the big pond. I wish I could sit with him for a bit, and offer you some respite (and a hot cup of tea, but you'd have to teach me!).
I so look forward to your posts, they write the truth and sadness that so many of us are facing daily in our lives. My Mum has just started with the clenched fist and her normal pleasant self has at times been replaced with a babbling, unkind person, hearing a voice telling her that I am an "ugly bugger", which in her normal state she would be mortified to think that she could ever say anything to hurt me. My kind, sweet, placid Mum is getting lost to this horrendous illness. What is the answer??? Love and hugs to you Georgina, we understand xx ❤️
I was with my parents for 5 months last year in the UK and on more than one occasion my mother also got the balled fist from my father again out of frustration rather than malice but for those few seconds it can feel quite scary for mum not knowing what’s coming next.
Recently I’ve been encouraging mum too tell me how it really is ... It’s one thing to be on a phonecall to both com NZ where Dad is “all things bright and beautiful” those learnt behaviour responses, but in reality it’s exhausting for my mother and I do worry for her own mental wellbeing. Dad has choir practice on a Tuesday night (picked up and dropped off)
I facetime mum when Dads out just so she can ‘let her down’ and speak freely, it’s not always bad, there’s humour there too.
Hope you have that someone in your life, as well as the medical professionals, just a friend on the other end of the phone to offload / download your week.
Blimey Georgina - it's strikes me as being a bit like (go with me here!) when governments choose to publish the most dire warnings re cigarettes and post awful awful photos ....AND YET PEOPLE STILL BUY THEM ... it's like no-one can absorb the horror and so switch off and come out with stupid platitudes like Blodwyn.
What you're living through, like with us all, is so awful, you cannot believe there isn't a national uproar .. and you really think - either I am going completely mad ... or the whole world is.
It’s coming time to find another place for James…? To keep you safe, physically and emotionally, and to also provide the safest environment for James himself…
Thank you for telling your story, Georgina. There isn't a lot of help for families who provide care for loved ones with dementia in the U.S., either. It's shameful, really. People reach adulthood and are productive citizens for 40, 50, or 60 years, working and contributing to civic life, their own families, communities, etc. but when they are diagnosed with dementia? They are written off. It encourages the rest of us to consider a more hedonistic lifestyle, because... why not?
Yes, I'm a little bitter, and more than a little frightened for my own future 20 years hence.
Hi Georgina, I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. It certainly is tough being a carer. I don't know if it will offer any help but I recently came across a website called Dementia Careblazers run by Dr Natali Edmonds, an American geropsychologist. She has lots of useful videos on her website covering all sorts of subjects and some of them may help you. A note of caution, I gave my email address as I wanted to check out her free course for my members. The course was good. However having given my email address I started to receive an email a day. After a couple of weeks I gave feedback that this was too much and unsubscribed. That aside, as I say, her videos are good. I do hope you find a way to keep going and most importantly look after yourself.
Hi Georgina, I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. It certainly is tough being a carer. I don't know if it will offer any help but I recently came across a website called Dementia Careblazers run by Dr Natali Edmonds, an American geropsychologist. She has lots of useful videos on her website covering all sorts of subjects and some of them may help you. A note of caution, I gave my email address as I wanted to check out her free course for my members. The course was good. However having given my email address I started to receive an email a day. After a couple of weeks I gave feedback that this was too much and unsubscribed. That aside, as I say, her videos are good. I do hope you find a way to keep going and most importantly look after yourself.
The marriage vows we take have never had so much relevance than when I read your blog. I pray for you and all carers daily. God give you the strength you need and I wish you peace and love. Xx
Hugs to you, my dear Georgina, from across the big pond. I wish I could sit with him for a bit, and offer you some respite (and a hot cup of tea, but you'd have to teach me!).
Thanks Sue - just trying to take each day as it comes right now…x
I so look forward to your posts, they write the truth and sadness that so many of us are facing daily in our lives. My Mum has just started with the clenched fist and her normal pleasant self has at times been replaced with a babbling, unkind person, hearing a voice telling her that I am an "ugly bugger", which in her normal state she would be mortified to think that she could ever say anything to hurt me. My kind, sweet, placid Mum is getting lost to this horrendous illness. What is the answer??? Love and hugs to you Georgina, we understand xx ❤️
So sorry for your predicament, "Georgina". Please try & take care of yourself too.
Sending you the biggest hugs ❤️
I was with my parents for 5 months last year in the UK and on more than one occasion my mother also got the balled fist from my father again out of frustration rather than malice but for those few seconds it can feel quite scary for mum not knowing what’s coming next.
Recently I’ve been encouraging mum too tell me how it really is ... It’s one thing to be on a phonecall to both com NZ where Dad is “all things bright and beautiful” those learnt behaviour responses, but in reality it’s exhausting for my mother and I do worry for her own mental wellbeing. Dad has choir practice on a Tuesday night (picked up and dropped off)
I facetime mum when Dads out just so she can ‘let her down’ and speak freely, it’s not always bad, there’s humour there too.
Hope you have that someone in your life, as well as the medical professionals, just a friend on the other end of the phone to offload / download your week.
Hugs to you Georgina from New Zealand 🇳🇿.
Blimey Georgina - it's strikes me as being a bit like (go with me here!) when governments choose to publish the most dire warnings re cigarettes and post awful awful photos ....AND YET PEOPLE STILL BUY THEM ... it's like no-one can absorb the horror and so switch off and come out with stupid platitudes like Blodwyn.
What you're living through, like with us all, is so awful, you cannot believe there isn't a national uproar .. and you really think - either I am going completely mad ... or the whole world is.
I'm so sorry Georgina
It’s coming time to find another place for James…? To keep you safe, physically and emotionally, and to also provide the safest environment for James himself…
-blessings to you-
Oh my dear, how much longer can you continue coping at home, albeit with some help. You need to look after yourself as well. Sending love x
Thank you for telling your story, Georgina. There isn't a lot of help for families who provide care for loved ones with dementia in the U.S., either. It's shameful, really. People reach adulthood and are productive citizens for 40, 50, or 60 years, working and contributing to civic life, their own families, communities, etc. but when they are diagnosed with dementia? They are written off. It encourages the rest of us to consider a more hedonistic lifestyle, because... why not?
Yes, I'm a little bitter, and more than a little frightened for my own future 20 years hence.
Hi Georgina, I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. It certainly is tough being a carer. I don't know if it will offer any help but I recently came across a website called Dementia Careblazers run by Dr Natali Edmonds, an American geropsychologist. She has lots of useful videos on her website covering all sorts of subjects and some of them may help you. A note of caution, I gave my email address as I wanted to check out her free course for my members. The course was good. However having given my email address I started to receive an email a day. After a couple of weeks I gave feedback that this was too much and unsubscribed. That aside, as I say, her videos are good. I do hope you find a way to keep going and most importantly look after yourself.
Hi Georgina, I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. It certainly is tough being a carer. I don't know if it will offer any help but I recently came across a website called Dementia Careblazers run by Dr Natali Edmonds, an American geropsychologist. She has lots of useful videos on her website covering all sorts of subjects and some of them may help you. A note of caution, I gave my email address as I wanted to check out her free course for my members. The course was good. However having given my email address I started to receive an email a day. After a couple of weeks I gave feedback that this was too much and unsubscribed. That aside, as I say, her videos are good. I do hope you find a way to keep going and most importantly look after yourself.
The marriage vows we take have never had so much relevance than when I read your blog. I pray for you and all carers daily. God give you the strength you need and I wish you peace and love. Xx
For the record you can purchase a radar key at any Boots store or online quite easily.